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A Not So Secret Obsession

A Not So Secret Obsession

It never pays to be a bully. Unless you’re okay with eventually being retaliated against and it will be justified. That sweet retaliation will most likely be pushed under the rug and you will be left there to suffer alone on a cold hard floor, curled up in a fetal position. Doesn’t sound good, does it? Then don’t be a bully. Bullies don’t realize that their hate for others becomes an obsession. They become so obsessed with others, revealing their not so secret obsession.

People tend to try and take advantage of those they feel are kind and quiet. They think because they get away with it, everything is copasetic. Meanwhile, they have no idea, who or what this person is truly capable of and tend to find out when it is much too late. I’ll let you in on a little secret, you know that person you spend your time taking advantage of because they let you? Everything you do or take from them is being calculated, and once that account is overdrawn, payment will be expected. If you are unable to pay… well… good luck.

How does bullying equate to obsession? Why,… I thought you’d never ask! Here are a few reasons why…

1. They notice everything their target wears

Bullies may believe they’re doing something when they so-called “rag” on people and what they wear. The way I see it is, they spent their precious time watching someone else like a hawk notice their clothing. Who does that lame stuff?! *laughs with tears in my eyes* I can’t for the life of me understand why anyone notices SUBTLE imperfections. Now, if you’re out here looking like Winnie The Pooh with a 10 sizes too tiny shirt, anyone will notice that, and you cannot blame a “bully” for noticing that one. That’s your fault, it’s okay to wear your correct size.

2. They inspect and notice every personal detail about their target

Now, THIS ONE is something. Imagine having imperfections that nobody would notice unless someone stared at you obsessively. Then being bullied for it. Although it doesn’t feel good to be noticed, it should feel great that someone cared enough to notice. Ain’t that sweet? It’s also creepy. Someone actually scanned your person like a perverted TSA worker at the airport that takes every hand wand opportunity and uses it to grope you. Imagine having Sherlock Holmes violate your personal space to find clues for his case. That’s exactly what it’s like.

3. Their world revolves around their target’s life

Targets become important figures in their life. They’re like a bad habit to these people. They can’t get by without feeling the need to gain “new jokes” to use for their bullying job. They have to always be “prepared”. I’m sorry, I can’t help but laugh because of the things that I’ve heard over the past few weeks. Bullies really believe their opinions matter and they’re so passionate about it that it’s actually sad. Do I feel bad for someone that obsesses over others? No, because they’re disgusting. I can’t understand why anyone would live their life trying to think of new ways to tear down the next person. Just be their friend and get over yourself. Your constant intrusion in someone else’s life would be much better that way. Anything you have gone through is never an excuse to victimized other people.

4. The right target draws them in, and they become consumed by them

Bullies may not realize it but some of us are well versed in what is going on in your psyche. Some of us play on that and you in turn become a victim. The difference is, we are justified because you are trying to disturb our peace. Since I was a child, I ate bullies alive and they never noticed it. Still do. They would notice the effects but wouldn’t put two and two together. It’s never any fun when the bunny has the gun. So many have tried and thought they would succeed but I always win in the end. It’s a game nobody should ever play with me. There are so many people like me who seem like easy targets, but truth is, you never know what’s lying beneath the surface. That’s free game for ya.

So, what does all of this mean?!

Obsession is never a good thing and everyone sees how obsessed you are with others. It’s not a secret! Learn to leave people alone. Bullying is not cool, nor has it ever been. If you need to bully people to feel important, please find the number to your nearest therapist.

With a therapist, you will become the center of attention for as long as you pay for it. If you don’t like that option, there’s always stand-up. Go and test your funny meter. I will say that most of you will clock out at 0. Enjoy your day!

To those who are being bullied, keep your head up. Your life truly matters. Don’t let anyone stop you from doing anything because of their overbearing obsession with you. That will make them win in the end. YOU are a winner.

Succeed in spite of others who try to tear you down. They obsess over you because they see things in you that you currently don’t. Once you see that greatness that they are trying to mute, you will begin to step into that greatness. I guess, sometimes we need bullies to help us realize how great we are. Have you been bullied? What is something that you would like to say to your bully?

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Jalika Cherie

JC Morgan is what some may call a Rebel or Eccentric. She doesn't fit in and she doesn't try to. She has piercings, tattoos, and stretched ears. She talks, walks, looks, and thinks differently than most Christians. People tend to stare at her without hiding it and the boldness is real because they will not say anything. But you know what? God still loves her and he loves you too. Whether you look different or act different, you still have a place in God's Kingdom. You may be a loner in your environment but let me tell you, you are not alone. Not only is God always there, but there are also other people who are just like you. Different in every way and they wear it as a badge of honor. She likes to say that we are THEE Cool Kids. We're the underdogs that pack a mean punch. We just need to let the Lord use us. With him, we can build mountains and tear down walls that try to stop us. Do you know how all of this can be possible? By restoring your personal relationship with God and practicing Soul Care. That is her area of expertise and that is what she is here to help Women do.

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