Licensed To Carry, Trained To De-Escalate (Neutralize The Threat)
So, I finally did it! I am now Licensed To Carry a Handgun. Now, I know what you’re thinking, “Omg, guns are bad!!!”. WHATEVER, let me stop you right there! Guns are not bad, criminals behind guns are bad. I’m actually one of the good guys. Although, I’m more of the stabby type. *shrugs*
I am officially Licensed To Carry, Trained To De-Escalate!
There are many of us who are Licensed To Carry our weapons. We wear them with a sense of protection. Some of us may even be quick to draw our weapons, only to make situations worse than what they should have been. Every situation does not warrant the use of violence. Every situation is not a threat. When most people think of people who carry their guns, they automatically assume we are gun-toting, violent tyrants with murder on our minds. When in truth, a lot of us just want to protect ourselves and our families. After all, when faced with a threat where action must be taken, it will all come down to the survivor being either the threat or us/our family. When it comes to me, the surviving party will always be me/my family.
How To De-escalate
When you’ve been trained to de-escalate situations, you are more likely to remain calm under circumstances where most people would normally fold. I’m told I have a gentle nature to which my response will always be “until I don’t”. The quietest and nicest people are the most calculated so they can turn out to be your worst nightmare. We have time to think and observe what most people miss. This is what helps us in the de-escalation process. In order to de-escalate, you must first have patience. With patience, you are able to remain calm and aware. Being aware will help you assess the situation and notice the body language of others. This is what helps you carefully choose your words and actions. It may not always work out in your favor but that’s where the weapon will come into play. Only if the threat becomes an immediate and dangerous one.
Let’s Circle Back To The Gentle Natured Part
We all aren’t about that life so I’m telling you right now, some people will read you like a book and will realize that you are pretending. They will realize that you are trying to de-escalate the situation. This may or may not amplify the situation. You may even run into people who don’t want to be calmed down and in trying to do so, you will amp them up more. They may get to a certain point where every move or word will charge their negative energy and anger. Any little change whether good or bad becomes fuel to the fire that is their anger. The goal is to avoid all of this but even someone with the Gift of Gab cannot talk everyone down.
I Say That To Say This, Violence Is Not The ONLY Way!
Sometimes, violence is inevitable but we must strive to handle situations without reaching for our weapons first. I’m talking about those situations with people we don’t like, as well. You know, those people you’ve been waiting to destroy that you owe the meanest butt whooping too. The ones where all you need is the green light and when you get it you’ll go off like a vicious guard dog with bloodlust. Whatever it is, let it go! Everyone is not worth any of your preciously expensive bullets. I’m not telling you to forget what people did but release it. Even if they are constantly cruising for a bruising. Stay calm with them, offer your friendship, and then catch them when you’ve gained all of their trust. Just kidding on that last part!
Let’s All Hold Hands And Be Friends
I’m kidding again. We should do everything with love. When we love ourselves, we tend to treat others better. I’m not telling you to be Best Friends with everyone but don’t go out of your way to be a jerk to people. Should you feel like there are certain people you just cannot be around…… DON’T!!!! Yes, I know that some people are unavoidable. In those cases be cordial and keep it moving. I have a bad habit of ignoring these people’s existence entirely. I’m working on it though. This would be one of those times where you would do as I say and not as I do. Only because I am changing, am I able to give this advice.
You Will Not Change Overnight
Change takes time but as long as you are constantly working and making progress, you’re doing the right thing. Don’t let anyone take away the progress you’ve worked for, away from you. Let’s try something real quick: Let’s take a deep breath and welcome change for our greater good. Let’s welcome calm and peace. If that is not enough, try Meditation and Prayer. It may not help right away but the more you do it, the more you become disciplined. The more disciplined you become, the better you will feel. These things will aid you in future de-escalating situations.
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