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Self-Care Is NOT Selfish…. But…….

Everyone that knows me, knows that I’m big on self-care. It is very hard to practice Self-Care in this day in age because there is backlash for everything. But I’ll save that for a later date. I truly believe that everyone should practice some form of Self-Care. Even if you must get to the point where you must shut down to get it. That’s not right. Don’t listen to me but sometimes that is the only way. People who have experienced this know exactly what I mean. We hear about Self-Care all the time. Self-Care this and Self-Care that! “Self-Care is not selfish”. Self-Care Is NOT Selfish…. But…….

It can be. It really can. Self-Care does not mean you solely care about yourself when you have a whole family to take care of. We all have moments when we need to take time for ourselves but that does not mean you completely neglect your responsibilities. There’s something about this new age stuff where almost everyone is willing to throw others under the bus because of self-care. Don’t do things at the expense of others.

Self-Care is NOT Selfish…. But…….

Don’t be spiteful. It is okay to have boundaries but don’t be a disgusting excuse for a human being because you feel entitled to being treated Grade A 24/7 even when you are spewing hate toward somebody else. It is not telling someone off to make yourself feel better. I mean, we have people out there who only care about how they feel, what they think, how something will affect them, etc. Believe me, I have met people who will say some evil things and then get all sensitive when you stand up for yourself against them. You could be coming out of a place of love but because they can’t fathom doing the same, they automatically take it as being spiteful.

Self-Care is NOT Selfish…. But…….

Other people’s feelings and emotions matter as well. It does not hurt to treat others with respect. DO NOT degrade another human because you are hurting. It is okay for everyone to have emotions toward something. It is okay to talk about it and accept all sides. Whether you agree or disagree.

Self-Care is NOT Selfish…. But…….

Lack of communication is not always the way to go. I know I’m bad with communicating because I literally have issues with speaking. However, I am so good at listening to others and understanding how they feel. Even when I feel that I am not being listened to or even heard for that matter. It Is fine to express yourself and your emotions but be sure to give others the same respect and opportunity to do the same. Communication is not just listening so that you only hear what you disagree with so you can debate it.

Self-Care is NOT Selfish…. But…….

Remaining quiet to avoid confrontation all the time is not Self-Care. It is actually the complete opposite. It is very damaging to you, especially when you have a mental or health condition. If you can’t find someone around you to talk to, seek a professional. I know sometimes there are no funds available to you, write about it, practice a new or favorite hobby. If you’re in the church, seek a spiritual leader. If it’s a health condition, SEEK HELP IMMEDIATELY!!!!!!!! I know it’s hard to reach out for help, but you cannot receive help until you want it and work on getting it. Believe me, I know. Boy, do I know.

Why I Care

I care because I want everyone to be happy and receive the love that they deserve. I care because I don’t like it when others are down, whether they deserve it or not. Man, I care because I don’t want anyone to feel or experience the things I have. Therefore, I blog. This is why I share my art. This is why I’m always there for others even when there is nobody there for me. Everyone is not going to understand what you’re going through. We are not all-knowing beings. Please get the help that you need to stop hurting yourself and others. And PLEASE stop using self-care to excuse your nasty behavior. That is not okay.

New Challenge

I dare you to pick one person in your life, reach out to them, and tell them to talk to you about what they’re going through. If they don’t want to talk, that is fine. Leave the invitation open so that they may talk to you when they are ready. Don’t force anyone to talk to you. Don’t just do it just to do it either. Do it because you want to.

You must want to SINCERELY, help another person to do this challenge. Here’s the challenge, I DARE YOU to listen. I dare you to listen and if they ask for help, help them. Now, I’m talking about a heart-to-heart conversation. I’m talking about showing nothing but unconditional love. I’m talking about walking, talking, and listening with the purpose to help another. Try being there for someone else. Watch how that favor is returned, even if it is from someone else.

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Jalika Cherie

JC Morgan is what some may call a Rebel or Eccentric. She doesn't fit in and she doesn't try to. She has piercings, tattoos, and stretched ears. She talks, walks, looks, and thinks differently than most Christians. People tend to stare at her without hiding it and the boldness is real because they will not say anything. But you know what? God still loves her and he loves you too. Whether you look different or act different, you still have a place in God's Kingdom. You may be a loner in your environment but let me tell you, you are not alone. Not only is God always there, but there are also other people who are just like you. Different in every way and they wear it as a badge of honor. She likes to say that we are THEE Cool Kids. We're the underdogs that pack a mean punch. We just need to let the Lord use us. With him, we can build mountains and tear down walls that try to stop us. Do you know how all of this can be possible? By restoring your personal relationship with God and practicing Soul Care. That is her area of expertise and that is what she is here to help Women do.

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