With Thanksgiving kicking off the holidays, I figured I would come back to say Happy Holidays! When I took my Hiatus back in October, I did so in the hopes of doing some soul searching. I am glad to say that I have finally realized my purpose. The details are for another post. Today we’re going to focus on “Surviving The Holidays!!!”
Back to the scheduled content!!!!
NOW! Let’s get into the purpose of today’s post which is SURVIVING THE HOLIDAYS!!! I would be lying if I said that I didn’t dread the holidays. It was cool for the few years that it was only me, my sister and my son. The rest of the holidays have been a mixture of heavy anxiety and super depression. Why? Well, during the holidays is when I have to be around people the most. I’m not much of a people person.
As an introvert, I prefer to be alone because that is the time that I can relax the most and recharge. Being around a bunch of people can be extremely draining for me. The holidays can be especially bad. You don’t even have to be an introvert to dread the holidays. So, here are a few reasons we dread the holidays that I know a lot of us can relate to and how to survive:
1. Unnecessary Small Talk
I can admit when you don’t see people often you may not know what to talk about. You may even want to see what they’re up to these days but please, please, please, please!!!!!!!!!!!!! If you know someone’s life isn’t where it should be, DO NOT force them to talk about it. Don’t try to force people to talk about their life in any way. It will only make things worse. Some people are just private and don’t like attention. If you’re like me, you just don’t like talking. So you try to appease everyone else by being involved in the conversation for a few minutes at a time throughout the day. There’s literally no getting around it and that is why I am recommending this. It sucks, I KNOW!!!
This is something that I absolutely hate with a passion. In fact, drama is the only thing that I hate. Why? It’s pointless, draining, and aggravating. The fact that some people thrive on it will always be something that I will never understand. You can avoid drama by minding your business. That’s always a good place to start. Just because you have an opinion does not mean that it needs to be expressed. Believe me, I have a lot of opinions that I keep to myself. When people are trying to be THOSE PEOPLE, either ignore them or plainly tell them that you’re not about to entertain them. You can also walk away.
This one falls under drama, but I felt that it needed its own shine. Every year we see these memes where a family member will say something unnecessary like:
It’s not even necessary. Although, it is super hilarious when it’s not you. Again, when people are trying to be THOSE PEOPLE, either ignore them or plainly tell them that you’re not about to entertain them. You can also walk away.
I am so used to peace and quiet. Even with the baby and a 7-year-old saying “mom” a billion times a day, I still get my quiet time. On holidays, you have a bunch of people talking at the same time and all kinds of random noises. For me, a bunch of different noises at the same time can be very overwhelming and irritating. The only thing that I can suggest is taking breaks and standing outside or hiding in your room or bedroom for short periods of time.
5. People and their interruptive behavior
A lot of families have those family members who may drink, do drugs or are abusive. All I can say is, be mindful of your surroundings. They may say or do things that they don’t necessarily mean. If you can slyly monitor the alcohol, do it. If you can get to the drugs and hide a portion of it without them noticing, do it. If you can protect that cousin, aunt, uncle, brother, sister, mom, or dad that is being abused…… DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!! But be sure to keep your family away from the abuser because after you have helped, it will become worse if you think it’s a one and done deal. You can’t help people that don’t want to be helped but you can do things to make things a little less terrible.
6. Terrible Food
If the food is bad, sneak out to a fast-food restaurant or something. When you get back, eat a small plate so you don’t look suspect and if anyone asks… “I’m full”, which you will be because you already ate. Now, if the person that cooked the bad food asks if you like it, you’re on your own. I’m not about to tell you how to lie to them. Sorry! But not really.
7. Spending time with new people
The holidays are usually when we meet our significant other’s family for the first time. You will be bombarded with questions. People will stare at you a lot. If you’re quiet, this will be pointed out a lot and the commentary will sound like:
Ignore it. That’s what I do. I also talk sh*t in my head. My response in my head is usually something like:
All I can say is, speak when spoken to. If they think you’re rude or think you’re better than them because you’re not going out of your way to talk to them, oh well. It is a personal problem. That has nothing to do with you.
8. You see someone you slept with
I can’t relate but I know it happens. It could be an ex or a one-night stand. If it’s an ex and you’re not on good terms, ignore them. They no longer exist. If it’s someone you had a one-night stand with or a secret lover and someone else is trying to introduce them to you, act like you don’t know them.
9. You burned the food
Again, I can’t relate. If anyone trusts me to cook for the holidays, that’s on them. Whatever happens to that food happens! I’m not used to cooking for a lot of people. In fact, I don’t even like cooking unless it’s curry chicken or jerk chicken. But anyway, if you burned the food, ask someone to get something to replace it. You tried! That counts for something. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Other people can help you remedy the situation.
10. Your Kid Broke Something
Apologize and cry about it. Kids can be extremely messy. Some even break stuff either by accident or on purpose. Yes, I said on purpose because you know some people’s kids do not respect people’s belongings. Should something get broken and you can’t replace it, don’t beat yourself up. Do explain your situation and figure out what will help.