The Way People Treat You Is A Reflection Of Them, Not You!
Listen, the way people treat you is a reflection of them, not you! There are so many instances where we may not have done anything to anybody but people have found a way to treat you like dirt and tried to drag you through the mud. This post is not to bash people who harbor hatred in their hearts but it is to lift up those who have experienced the short end of the stick when it comes to others.
I’m the type of person that stays to myself and I have experienced pure hatred from people that I have never even acknowledged or knew existed. I can’t beat myself up over someone else’s hatred for me. All I can do is hope they let it go and heal whatever part of them is causing them to feel the way that they do. I mean, I CAN also pray for them and continue to show them an example of what they should be like.
That is not to say that I am perfect but I will say that I don’t harbor hatred for anyone. I may dislike a person or two, but that is because of something they have done TO me directly. Even still, I will not go out of my way to harm them or destroy their character. It is my job to speak life into people who have let it go.
Let’s Get Into It
So again, the way people treat you is a reflection of them, not you! Here’s is what you can do when you are experiencing the mistreatment of others:
1. Don’t Take It Personal
They’re not treating you that way because of anything you did. They’re treating you that way because of something they’re dealing with and having issues with coping with. There could also be jealousy issues. It has nothing to do with you. It is not an excuse for their actions. Understand that and try to move on from the situation. Don’t let a Bitter Betty or Benson affect you.
2. Do Pray/Meditate On It
Take a seat and try to process all that is going on. Think about ways that you can react from a place of love or walk away from the situation as a whole. Pray that they receive healing and understanding so that they will cease hateful and mean spirited actions toward you and others.
3. Don’t Internalize It
Don’t sit around and dwell on how you’re treated. Don’t sit around and let it fester and develop negative feelings toward the person/people. You can remember what was done to you without internalizing it. To internalize it is to soak it up and repeat everything that is done to you either back to those same people or to someone else. It will become a never-ending cycle and that is what we don’t want.
4. Do Be The Light and Example
Be that positive force in a negative situation. Show others how they should act. You can do this by Sharing posts on social media, creating art or videos, preaching, or even blogging. You don’t always have to confront someone. You can still reach others indirectly. Believe me, I’ve been doing it since the beginning of time. I am the master at it. And yes, I’m tooting my own horn. “Toot, Toot!”
5. Don’t Stoop To Their Level
Never ever ever do to others what has been done to you unless it is positive. It is never a good thing to stoop to someone’s level. You can however speak on a person’s level of understanding. That is a skill that takes years to master because you first have to learn PEOPLE.
6. Do Continue To Be You
No matter what, always be you! Don’t stop being you because someone else is attacking you! Block it and keep it moving. Don’t dim your light because someone else may be jealous of you. Keep shining! Let others catch up or stay behind.
People will feel how they feel about you regardless of who you are or what you do. You can be the sweetest thing on earth and people will still badmouth you. Don’t let that stop you from doing what you need to do and fulfilling your purpose. Don’t let people destroy what you have built because they may not have anything. Show them how you got there. Invite them to try it for themselves. Watch how their face changes when you continue to pour love into them.
I have made the mistake of feeling like people don’t deserve to know me because I felt they were not good enough. That hurt me more than anything because I was not fulfilling my purpose of showing others how they could be better versions of themselves and let that hatred and animosity go. Be the light in everything that you do.