Today’s Lesson Of The Day is “There’s communication and then there’s effective communication”.
You can have as many conversations with a person but if no one is grasping what the other is saying it is pointless. Conversation is a talk between two or more people where news or ideas are exchanged.
Many of us like to complain about how people do not want to talk to us but completely forget the fact that we are not sound thinkers or listeners in conversation. Turning the conversation into a one-way street with every word bouncing off and falling to the ground in puddles like a tear-stained floor.
Nobody wants to talk to or confide in a person that can’t put themselves to the side and just listen. Nobody wants to talk to a person that sees another person’s ideas or information as useless and bothersome. Nobody wants to talk to someone who cannot communicate without getting angry. Then they wonder why others are so quick to walk away or even keep things from them.
In order to be able to communicate effectively, you must practice the art of staying out of your feelings and listening to the ideas of someone outside of yourself. Yes, I said it. When you operate out of emotion you miss out on so much. I’m not saying you have to agree with anything said in conversation because we are all our own person but at least hear them out.
And please for the love of yourself and others, someone else confiding in you about you should not turn into you attacking them or you feel like they’re doing something to you. This is a hard one because of past trauma but it is something that a lot of us need to work on. A person should not be left feeling alone because you are unable to communicate effectively.
This brings me to my last point. Some of us are just childish and refuse to grow up. GROW UP!!! Nobody is perfect. Accept the things that you do wrong and do not attack others for pointing them out to you. Accept that everyone has their own opinion and is entitled to it.
To communicate effectively is to help yourself and others be on the same page. Try effectively communicating and see how much it helps you on a day-to-day basis in every aspect of your life. Oh and keep in mind that when you come into conversation with your mind already set on something instead of coming in with an open mind, the conversation will ALMOST NEVER go anywhere good.